“I’m afraid of meeting my child in heaven when I die,” the elderly woman lamented as she waited for me to sign her copy of my book, Her Choice to Heal: Finding Spiritual and Emotional Peace After Abortion.
Moments before, I had shared my abortion testimony for a pregnancy center’s fund raising banquet. This older woman’s physical reaction as I spoke seemed to indicate she had chosen abortion. I was happy she came to talk to me.
“How can I face a child whose life I ended? Will my child in heaven ever be able to forgive me?” she questioned with obvious pain and apprehension.
“God is the only judge in heaven,” I comforted. “Those who have gone before us have been set free of the emotions of this World. They are at peace. I believe they will welcome us and don’t want us to fear that reunion. God is the only appraiser of our souls because He knows our heart. Where is your walk with God?”
Thankfully, this woman expressed a deep love for God, making it evident that she had accepted Christ as her Savior. As she shared, the Director of the center came up behind her and broke into our conversation, sharing, “Mabel is one of our long-term volunteers. We love Mabel!”
Aging post-abortive people exist all over America. Many may have encountered no obvious regret until they reach the end of their lives. Some have found God’s peace by quietly serving others. Others have added to their list of regrets by supporting and/or participating in other women’s abortion decisions.
One in three American women living today have potentially experienced abortion. Post-abortive individuals are at every level of society, including our nation’s elderly care units like assisted living facilities and nursing homes.
Seventy years ago, abortion was a very tightly held secret because it revealed virginity was lost. Unexpected pregnancies held a deeper level of shame for the woman and her family. Most couples would marry immediately, whether they loved each other or not. If marriage wasn’t possible, adoption was often the forced procedure in resolving any potential family disgrace.
Abortion methods and legality may have changed over the years but the impact on the heart is often the same. The elderly may just be better at hiding secrets than younger souls. Information about the emotional, spiritual, psychological and physical impact of abortion has only been proclaimed in the last few decades.
The elderly often isolate themselves from difficult topics like abortion and simply never hear the message of the hope of God’s healing. Their generation rarely shared their sins in public as well. The shame of an unexpected pregnancy fifty to seventy years ago is far different from today.
As the only Judge in Heaven, God is clear in the Bible that there is no sin that He cannot forgive. Even abortion. Hebrews 10:15-18 relays, The Holy Spirit also testifies to us about this. First he says: “This is the covenant I will make with them after that time, says the Lord. I will put my laws in their hearts, and I will write them on their minds.” Then he adds: “Their sins and lawless acts I will remember no more.” And where these have been forgiven, sacrifice for sin is no longer necessary.
A future residence in heaven has only one requirement, revealed in John 3:16, For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. If someone has not accepted Christ into their hearts, they simply won’t meet their children when they die.
There is no timetable on abortion pain. This choice can be forgotten for decades yet triggered quickly when the end of life issues arrive. The death of every loved one reminds us of those we have lost over the years. Grief expands and can overwhelm. It’s more essential than ever that these men and women be reached with the hope of God’s salvation and peace.
Those who have grieved their abortion and found God’s healing are typically excited about meeting their lost children at last. If they are afraid of a future heavenly encounter, it typically means more healing needs to be accomplished.
Hebrews 1:3 outlines the truth about God’s love, The Son is the radiance of God’s glory and the exact representation of his being, sustaining all things by his powerful word. After he had provided purification for sins, he sat down at the right hand of the Majesty in heaven.
For those that care about post-abortive hearts, please share about God’s hope when the elderly are present. You may never know who among you has made this choice!