Did She Tell You About Her Abortion?

Post-abortive women often spout their abortion truth in the most unlikely moments. This need for validation is intense when the initial relief period passes. Depending on the listener’s perspective, these confessions can be met with compassion, validation or rejection.

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9 Ways to Help Someone After Abortion

Everyone is impacted by abortion, whether they know it or not. If you care about people who have chosen abortion, here are nine things to consider when attempting to help them.

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Thanksgiving Triggers After Abortion

Immediately after abortion, many post-abortive people enjoy a period of relief. The anxiety of an unexpected pregnancy has been resolved, if only for a while. Individuals often work to forget this choice and go on with their lives. Sadly, many find that the emotional and spiritual pain of abortion can peak after being triggered, particularly during holiday events.

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A Personal Abortion Story by Sydna Masse

Sydna Massé is a rare pro-life speaker when she shares her story of walking into an abortion clinic and losing her child. Watch this video to see how a pregnancy center could have made all the difference in her choice to abort. Sydna shares how – years later – a pregnancy center helped her find God’s healing and grace. If you are searching for a pro-life event speaker, Watch this video!

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Four Biological Impacts of Abortion

The biological impact of abortion is often the least understood aspect of this choice due to the lack of scientific research. After abortion, women rarely reveal this truth to anyone. That fact alone makes research afterwards nearly impossible. Even without detailed research on post-abortive women, science has provided proof of the biological impact of abortion. There are four ways in which a woman’s body is impacted by abortion.

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Pregnancy Scare!

Abortion is completely hypothetical until you find yourself in a potential unexpected pregnancy. A pregnancy scare can lead anyone to consider the abortion option. However, when those individuals who considered themselves “pro-life” actually abort, their pain afterwards can be greatly intensified because they knew better.

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Realizing Fetal Pain During Abortion

For women who have chosen abortion, the “pain-capable” point can blow their minds. Post-abortive women have often bought the lie that abortion only removes “a blob of tissue.” When you state that a “blob” may feel pain while they are being aborted, the “blob lie” fizzles.

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Abortion’s Generational Curse

When a family unit is steeped in dysfunction, sexual abuse and abortions abound. Grandmothers or mothers who aborted often encourage daughters and granddaughters to do the same. Abortion then becomes a family habit or a generational curse.

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Helping Your Wife Heal After Abortion

Abortions are typically decided in times of great turmoil. When women share that they had an abortion, the deep details rarely follow this truth. By sharing just the simple truth that they had an abortion, these hearts watch the listener’s reaction closely.

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7 Reasons Not to Abort Again

If someone walks back into an abortion clinic to abort again, they typically re-live their first abortion emotionally, spiritually, psychological, biologically and physically during the second abortion. The trauma is then often doubled or even tripled.

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You Must Be Post-Abortive!

The requirement that, “You must be post-abortive,” astounded me. Nothing rattles me more than when abortion recovery programs openly DISCRIMINATE and REJECT God’s anointed people simply because they have never experienced abortion.  As a direct result of this cliquish rule, abortion recovery efforts have diminished over the years versus increased because there simply are not enough healed post-abortive people to administer these programs nationwide.

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Our Ministry Rocks

Judy concluded, “Put a stone in this basket and write on it the name of every life God touches through your lovely heart. This basket will serve to strengthen your ministry and encourage your heart in years to come that God is using you mightily. I’m glad that my rock is there first!”

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Abortion’s Survivor Guilt

Abortion finds many of us at a crossroads. Individuals can easily forget the added dysfunction they endured because they chose abortion. Rarely does abortion improve a life but often it leads to other problematic behavior that impact family life.

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When Abortion is a Family Secret

When a mother does not make this choice, it’s normal for her to blame those who insisted she abort. Since she cannot divorce her family, her life can be miserable whenever she’s around those that forced her to take the life of her child.

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An Appeal to Post-Abortive Women

An appeal to post-abortive women who are still in search of God’s healing to begin to address this pain using Ramah International’s new website at herchoicetoheal.com.

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Abortion’s Haunting Impact

When the aborted child’s placenta detaches from his mother’s womb, the mother often feels this separation deep within her soul. This “emptiness” often feels haunting as an abortion experience is difficult to ignore or forget.

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I Never Heard From Them Again

Ramah International’s main goal is to help individuals experiencing abortion pain find God’s healing. Whether this is by talking to them directly and helping them discover God’s healing, writing blogs that answer their deepest questions, taking calls because they are pregnant again and considering abortion, or in referring them to local abortion recovery programs.

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God’s Purpose in Abortion Pain

"I've confessed my sin, Sydna, to you and God," the woman outlined. "I’ve attended a weekend abortion recovery retreat as well. Why isn't the pain gone now? Why isn’t God healing me faster?" Post-abortive women often spend a lot of emotional energy in denying or...

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You Never Know Who’s Listening

Missing from the mix are the voices of tens of millions who are shattered deeply by the loss of their child(ren). These hearts absorb the murderer/killer title with great shame and guilt. Locked in silent prisons of pain, they reach judgmental conclusions about themselves and believe the worst – that they have committed the unforgivable sin.

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5 Types of Anger After Abortion

Anger typically surrounds women before and after their abortion. Anger assists in addressing – or covering up – typical after abortion emotions like fear, guilt, longing, frustration, or hopelessness.

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Ongoing Grief After Abortion

God created tears to help us heal. Tears have a biological purpose in helping cleanse our bodies of toxins. There is also a whole book of the Bible on grief – Lamentations – that outlines crying is good for us, whenever it arrives.

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5 Burdens of Abortion

Abortion impacts a woman’s body, soul and mind. The simple fact that post-abortive women rarely share this truth with others confirms that abortion often has unseen consequences.

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6 Ways Abortion Can Impact the Family

Abortion impacts everyone, whether they know it or not. It is a choice that influences not only the woman but also everyone related to them. If someone you know changes their behavior overnight – and seems to become someone else – suspect they may have chosen abortion.

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4 Costs of Sharing an Abortion Secret

Today there are active efforts by pro-choice and pro-life groups to encourage women to share their abortion stories. Twitter campaigns like #shoutyourabortion and #1in3 are designed to NORMALIZE an abortion experience and reduce any related stigma. Sadly, in sharing this tale prior to God’s healing, more trauma can result for everyone involved.

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5 Spiritual Weights of Abortion

In leaving the abortion clinic, typically one is dead and the other is wounded. It makes no difference that the abortion was a “legal” choice. The end result is the death of a living child. Because that life was voluntarily surrendered, abortion has a different impact on a woman’s heart at a spiritual level.

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Postpartum Depression After Abortion

Abortion clearly involves giving birth. It obviously involves the loss of a child. However you view the abortion issue, there is no denying that this form of voluntary child loss has a physical impact on the women that choose it.

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Abortion’s Fake News

At the time, I was offered the fake news that abortion was safe and legal. It was my right as a woman to control my body. It would even make my life better by allowing me to erase this mistake and have a do-over. They said there was plenty of time to make other choices.

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The Emotional Impact of Aborting Imperfect Humans

Many fetal abnormalities are discovered later in the pregnancy. Most are referred to the local abortion clinic for this procedure. Once there, they sit among women like myself who chose to abort for different reasons. Aborting a wanted child in such a situation bears its own form of trauma.

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Forgiving Jane Roe – Abortion’s Secondary Impact

“Can I have a cigarette first?” Norma McCorvey, the infamous “Jane Roe” in the Roe v. Wade case that legalized abortion in America, stood next to me behind the stage. Her request outlined her apprehension of what would happen over the next five minutes.

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4 Stages of After Abortion Sadness

It is normal for human beings to avoid or deny sad feelings. Few actively embrace sorrow after abortion due to the fear that their tears could result in depression that could lead to suicide. We then miss the results of embracing sorrow, outlined in Psalm 126:5-6 (NIV) – Those who sow with tears will reap with songs of joy. Those who go out weeping, carrying seed to sow, will return with songs of joy…

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8 Forms of Childhood Strife That Impact Abortion

Family histories that include abortion often contain many other traumatic events. Unplanned pregnancy often results during deep family strife as one generation significantly impacts another. These strife cycles cascade down the family line often ending in a generational circle of discord. Since one generation clearly impacts another, abortion decisions are often repeated down a family line.

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5 Stages of Denial After Abortion

Every time the word “abortion” is overheard by a post-abortive heart, a trigger of abortion pain can be unleashed. This simple phrase rarely brings any joy to those considering its ramifications. Any one related to a post-abortive person can watch our transformation from blindness on this topic simply by watching our body language and listening to our conversation. Here are five common stages of post-abortive denial…

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I Would Have Marched in a Pink Pussy-Cat Hat

Many souls wearing pink pussy-cat hats on Saturday’s march were likely post-abortive. No one defends abortion like those who have chosen it – at least, initially. Anger is typically a necessary element of any abortion rights protests.

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Dislodging America’s Abortion Pain

Today we stand, waiting in deeper faith than ever before, anticipating a whole new civil rights battle, designed to reduce America’s horrific involvement in the systematic destruction of the lives of our tiniest citizens. But we can’t do it alone!

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Mom, What’s Abortion?

With the approaching battle in Congress to remove Planned Parenthood funding, parents need to be prepared to answer this question from their children. Whether you have experienced an abortion or not, educating our children about abortion’s devastation will help ENSURE they never make such a choice.

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4 Ways to Address Holiday Pain After Abortion

Every holiday season is filled with reminiscences of celebrations with family and friends, many of whom have gone ahead of us to Heaven. Christmas celebrates God sending His own Son to Earth through a teenage unwed mother. That story, in itself, can trigger unresolved abortion pain.

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Making Abortion Unthinkable

The number and rate of abortions tallied by federal authorities have fallen to their lowest level in decades. The abortion rate for 2013 was half the rate recorded in 1980. The CDC tallied 664,435 abortions in 2013, discovering that the abortion rate was down 20 percent from 2004.

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Abortion and Sexual Abuse

Sexual trafficking ministries have long understood the connection between abortion and sexual abuse. For those caught in the web of sexual slavery, abortion is a well-used financial tool for traffickers. Those that escape that imprisonment often report multiple forced abortion experiences.

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Abortion’s Impact on the Elderly

One in three American women living today have potentially experienced abortion. Post-abortive individuals are at every level of society, including our nation’s elderly care units like assisted living facilities and nursing homes.

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The Post-Abortive Woman’s Vote

My first DNC call to voters required reading a script that outlined my support for “abortion.” I was shocked that simply voicing the word produced immediate anxiety in my heart. I hung up, left the precinct and never returned.

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When A Christian Aborts

I continued, “In 2014, 24% of abortion patients were Catholic, 17% were mainline Protestant, 13% were evangelical Protestant and 8% identified with some other religion. Churched women are more likely to abort due to shame issues.”

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8 Common Triggers of After Abortion Pain

For those experiencing Abortion PTSD, it is normal for sights, sounds, smells and even feelings they encountered during the time of their abortion decision to ignite memories they are working to forget.

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Abortion’s Bloodguilt: He Died for That!

“God cannot forgive my abortion sin, Sydna,” a post-abortive woman concluded during a phone conversation.  “The blood of my child will always be on my hands!” This is a common illogical mindset among post-abortive hearts.  When we confess, many simply don’t realize...

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After Abortion Segregation

“She became a completely different person overnight,” the caller outlined about her daughter. “I read your blog and believe that she may have chosen abortion.” Abortion changes everything, whether the mother or father knows it or not.

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A Novel Approach to Abortion

“Get. Out.” She slammed the door shut again and waited until his footsteps echoed off the last of the wood risers below. Crumbling to the floor, she let the sobs loose. Life had been better when she’d kept her heart on ice.

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“Is Abortion a Sin?”

I was a Christian when I entered an abortion clinic. My boyfriend and I were both pastor’s kids. Our sexual relationship was obviously sinful but I could rationalize it because everyone was doing it. That began a habit of sin justification that led to my child’s eventual demise.

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5 Ways Siblings of Aborted Children Suffer

Abortion changes everything. In leaving an abortion clinic, one is dead while the mother is typically wounded in some way. Initially, family members endure the brunt of the emotional, spiritual and psychological fall out. Many have no idea an abortion has occurred.

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8 Reasons Women Abort Again and Again

When God makes the reality of abortion obvious to a post-abortive soul, many feel they deserve incarceration – even the death penalty. Sadly, the worst prisons can be in our own minds.

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4 Ways Abortion Wounds Women

Abortion impacts a woman’s body, soul and mind. The simple fact that she will rarely share this truth with others confirms that abortion often has unseen consequences. Abortion is also a difficult truth to harbor in a heart.

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4 Male Mindsets that Influence Abortion

A woman cannot get pregnant alone. Society often places the entire responsibility for an abortion choice on the mother who walked into the clinic. Yet for every aborted child, there is a father who may or may not have been involved in their child’s death.

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6 Impacts of Abortion on the Family

When I decided to abort, I captured the false promise that afterwards I could go on as if nothing happened. The choice seemed the best for everyone involved – particularly my family. I believed this choice would afford both myself, my present and future family several advantages.

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Why Women Choose Abortion Over Adoption

Just reading the word “adoption” filled me with fear of the long-term pain associated with never knowing what happened to my child. Envisioning my baby being ripped from my arms and given to strangers was too much to consider. Abortion seemed far easier in my teenage logic.

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Abortion’s Anniversary Anguish

Anniversary pain can be focused on the date of the abortion or the due date of the aborted child. When these dates resurface, unknown sorrow can result. Many times there is relief in understanding that this pain has a source.

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Why Didn’t God Stop Me?

“I asked God to stop me if aborting wasn’t His will for my life. When He didn’t, I felt it was okay. Why didn’t He stop me, Sydna?” the post-abortive woman asked. Many faith-based hearts prayed before they aborted, asking for God to intervene if this wasn’t His will...

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Justice After Abortion

“I must have been sleeping for the last ten years,” the caller screamed.  “I’ve been blinded to the horrors of my own abortion.  I lived in denial that has evaporated.  I don’t need healing.  I need to end this horror for other women by working to make abortion...

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8 Reasons Post-Abortive Women Cannot Be Researched

Imagine receiving a call from a survey company who asks, “Has anyone in your home experienced abortion?” If you are post-abortive, would you answer affirmatively?  Likely not! Women are typically hesitant to reveal they have made this choice to friends and family, let...

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Forgiving Abortion Enablers

Women do not get pregnant by themselves. Rarely do they end up in abortion clinics without being impacted by the opinion of others. Whether through direct or indirect involvement, abortion enablers are those who encourage, bully, intimidate, coerce or assist women in choosing abortion.

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3 Common Mindsets After Abortion

Post-abortion healing often begins when post-abortive women take the tentative step to exit their self-imposed prisons of secrecy to reach out for help. I will never forget the day I summoned the courage to open a booklet entitled, Identifying and Overcoming Post-Abortion Syndrome.

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God’s Forgiveness After Abortion

"The pastor said my abortion is an unforgivable sin because I blasphemed the Holy Spirit in rejecting His gift of life,” a post-abortive woman outlined in an e-mail message.  “There is no hope for me to ever enter Heaven, Sydna, right?” The wounded woman’s pastor used...

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The Right to Remain Silent After Abortion

"I don’t understand why women aren’t flooding onto platforms to share their abortion truth, Sydna,” a male pro-life leader declared during a long ago phone conversation.  “I’m angry that you aren't pushing women to take a stand against abortion when you know what it...

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Stranger at the Abortion Clinic

“This is an abortion clinic! What is she doing here?” I thought upon noticing a stranger entering the room.  “She does not look like a person who should be having an abortion.” The woman resembled a preppy teenager with short red hair and clear pale skin.  “Likely a...

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Eight Lies About Abortion

Abortion seemed like a lie worth believing when I discovered my unplanned pregnancy in my local Planned Parenthood office at 19 years of age.  The falsehoods Planned Parenthood sold to me that day would reverberate in my life forever.  Sadly, I bought their well...

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Abortion: Heaven’s Hope

“You aren’t giving women the hope of seeing their children in heaven, are you, Sydna?” an abortion recovery leader probed me during an initial conversation in my first years in ministry.  “Scripture isn’t clear that the destination of aborted souls is heaven, Sydna!”...

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Abortion’s Sinful Women

"The list of Abortion PTSD symptoms is endless,” the father of a post-abortive woman wrote despondently. “Abortion is something people cannot get over. I know they can say they have, but I don't see evidence of that.” The hopelessness of this man's bleak perspective...

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Abolishing Abortion Strongholds

“I’ve had too many abortions, Sydna,” the caller outlined. “God simply cannot forgive me.” My response is always the same - There is no sin that God cannot forgive - even abortion. The problem may be you don’t forgive yourself and may need some help. The myth that God...

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Abortion, Immigration and the American Dream

“You are my dreams fulfilled, Sydna,” my Irish maternal grandfather announced upon meeting me at 5 years old. “You are my American grandchild, a citizen of the land flowing with milk and honey!” In last week's Republican debate, history was made wherein two candidates...

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Adele, Motherhood and Abortion

“When I became a parent, I felt like I was truly living. I had a purpose, where before I didn’t,” singer Adele confessed in a March, 2016 Vogue article. At 27 years old, this very successful woman simply stated the truth – she was enjoying life with her child!  There...

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Abortion: A Special Place in Hell

Madeleine Albright apologized in the NY Times this weekend for her February 5, 2016 statement supporting Hillary Clinton, where she outlined, “There is a special place in hell for women that don't help each other.”   Albright’s comment struck a chord in my...

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Doritos Superbowl Ad Breaks Abortion Denial

NARAL (National Abortion Rights Action League) is angry that during the 50th Superbowl, @Doritos used what they call, "an #antichoice tactic of humanizing fetuses," by featuring  an ultrasound of an unborn baby moving in the womb. NARAL knows "humanizing fetuses"...

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#1in3 Abortion’s Broken Women

C.S. Lewis once said, “We are not necessarily doubting that God will do the best for us; we are wondering how painful the best will turn out to be.” When it comes to a past abortion, embracing a recovery class seems like an agonizing concept but it can truly lead to...

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Aborting a Millennial

Signs bearing the message, “We are the pro-life generation that will abolish abortion!” will be in full view in Washington this week.  Members of the millennial audience, or Generation Y, are expected to turn out in record number for this year’s protest march...

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Dreams After Abortion

“But I aborted to be able to finish college,” the post-abortive woman outlined in her message.  “Now I can’t even move.  I’m in deep depression, have failed two classes and I want to know what is wrong with me!  I can’t see how any of this relates to my abortion but I...

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#PPShooting – Rescue at Planned Parenthood

“Everyone needs to remain calm, keep your heads low and follow me to the buses,” the Colorado Springs police officer told us before our evacuation from a lock-down situation at work.  “Our officers have formed a human shield to make sure you all get out of here...

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5 Steps to Begin Healing After Abortion

After abortion, many come to a point of asking themselves, "Okay, so I had an abortion. But that is in the past. Do I really need to be healed?" Some women seemingly never need to work through any kind of healing process. But for many, the memory of the abortion lies...

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#1in3Speaks Increasing Abortion’s Stigma

“No one will ever have to know you were pregnant,” the orderly at my abortion clinic outlined dryly. “You can go on with your life as if nothing ever happened!” I absorbed her comments, working to believe her. She “sold” my abortion as something that would protect the...

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Exposing Abortion PTSD Triggers at Planned Parenthood

“That was the Planned Parenthood where I learned about my unplanned pregnancy in 1981,” I pointed out to Sarah Buler as we looked out the window of the Alternatives of Kalamazoo pregnancy center in Michigan two weeks ago. Over the years, I have purposefully walked...

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#PregnancyCenters – Walking Among Heroes

Last month I walked among an amazing group of heroes at the 2015 CareNet conference. Pregnancy center personnel from all over the nation gathered for encouragement, to learn new things and to be revived in their work for life. I wouldn’t call myself an equal to these...

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#AbortionDistortion – 95% Do Not Regret Their Abortions

Planned Parenthood's touting a July, 2015 Plos One research study that,“examined women’s emotions and reports of whether the abortion decision was the right one for them.”  Based on the lack of obvious regret among a tiny sample of women, pro-aborts joyfully conclude...

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#ShoutYourAbortion Consequences

Planned Parenthood’s recent encouragement to women to tweet their abortion truth using #ShoutYourAbortion will have a long lasting impact not only on the women who responded but also on many families who will read, with horror, about the death of a family member. The...

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Paralyzing Post-Abortive Shame

If one third of American women have experienced abortion, why is it that you rarely hear anyone confess to this choice?   Abortion is typically cloaked in secrecy.  Post-abortive silence speaks volumes about the post-abortive shame that is often associated with this...

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Remembering Aborted Children: His Name is Jesse!

“Trust us,” my abortion recovery leader requested. “A memorial service for your aborted child will be a healing experience.” With each video release about Planned Parenthood's sale of aborted baby body parts from the Center for Medical Progress, America is now...

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Forgiving Myself for Aborting My Child

“There is no sin that God can’t forgive – even abortion,” Dr. James Dobson outlined during my first day working at Focus on the Family in October of 1991. “The problem may be you don’t forgive yourself, and you may need help.” His simple point was amazingly accurate...

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Abortion Influencers: What A Fool Believes

“I thought they killed you up there!” my boyfriend announced as he met me outside the abortion clinic where my unborn child had just died. As the father of my aborted baby announced the possibility of my demise during that procedure, I wondered what other risks I...

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The REAL War on Women

“Why would I want to hold your hand?” I naively responded to the “nurse” at the abortion clinic as she helped me onto the surgical table. Her matter-of-fact response sent chills through my body, “Because you didn’t pay extra for anesthesia so this is going to hurt…” I...

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Steps to Take Before Sharing the Secret of Abortion

After three undercover videos outlining that our world’s largest abortion provider, Planned Parenthood, sells the body parts of aborted children, many post-abortive people are outraged, along with many others. Post-abortive denial was broken forever in these videos of...

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The Undeniable Stigma of Abortion

Abortion stigma for me began the moment I realized I was pregnant.  In even considering an abortion, many women cross the line of their own personal conscience. One step can lead to another until you are quickly “pregnant no more.” It is nearly trite to say that my...

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Traumatizing Tears After Abortion

“Sydna, I’m afraid that if I cry for my aborted child, I won’t be able to stop,” my lunch partner confessed. “I’m not suicidal at all. I just want to go to Heaven and hold my baby.  I felt this way when my mother died!  I missed her so much!” Pregnancy loss through...

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Immediately After Abortion

As someone who chose abortion in my teen years, I understand the various emotions that many experience immediately after abortion. At that time, there were no resources to help me understand the emotions that followed that choice. My hope is that this blog can enlighten you to the common issues some may encounter immediately after an abortion decision so you can understand what you may encounter.

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