“If she isn’t comfortable being called murderer, then she’s not healed!” the FB comment outlined on a shared post of my recent blog entitled, “I Can Hear You.”
Since May, 2015, I’ve been blogging daily about elements of the American post-abortive experience, particularly among those who identify as “spiritual.” These posts are part of Ramah’s mission to offer the hope of God’s healing to abortion’s wounded through ongoing awareness and outreach.
In this particular blog, I outlined a time in my early ministry life of sharing my abortion testimony when a woman angrily labeled me a “murderer.” The message in several FB comments was clear – If I could not EMBRACE other people calling me a murderer or killer, then I certainly must not be “healed.”
Since when does being healed involve embracing condemnation from others? We don’t call our soldiers “killers” when they return from war. While these veterans may have taken lives in battle, they were under orders to do so and not personally responsible. I have lied in the past but I would not have found God if I had been called a liar every time someone tried to talk to me.
Let’s not confuse speaking the truth and condemnation. For those with spiritual hearts, realize that Jesus did not brand the woman at the well (John 4) as an adulterer. Instead, He gently outlined the truth – “You have had five husbands and the one you are with is not your husband.” God’s love changes hearts not name calling.
Many of us can identify with this Biblical female. She was a Samaritan, a race in those days that Jews utterly despised and believed had no access to their God. She was ostracized and marked as immoral by her community. Jesus unveiled grace to her in a different way from other sinners. He spoke to her as a person of worth and value, in spite of her moral situation.
Clearly, this woman KNEW she was a sinner. Meeting Jesus alone at that well made that obvious. She waited until the well was empty before coming to draw her water, outlining she obeyed the isolation edict they placed on her as an immoral woman. God knew she needed to see herself as worthy of His love in spite of her sins. Only an outcast could understand what a magnificent gift God’s love was that day.
After this encounter, the woman shared the story with her community and many believed after she essentially outlined, “He told me everything I ever did.” Because of the simple respect and love Jesus offered to a scorned, immoral woman, many lives were touched and enhanced with God’s peace.
Personal healing is not up to the scrutiny of other, folks. Only God can judge a person’s heart status. By calling my healing into question, these judgmental commenters proved the point I was trying to make in the blog.
As with all toxic comments, they were removed so that the wounded wouldn’t take them to heart and remain in their silent prisons of pain! My heart is strong enough to bear these attacks but readers are at another level entirely.
Post-abortive people, like the woman at the well, don’t need condemnation. We are hard enough on ourselves. Many of us don’t believe we DESERVE healing either. We become spiritually thirsty and yearn for living water that will heal our hearts.
Ramah’s prayer is that our blogs will help lead these hearts to abortion recovery efforts that can quench their spiritual longing, regardless of anyone’s opinion. When you hear our confessions, or overhear gossip that outlines our choice negatively, please be prepared with love and compassion. God’s love is available to everyone, regardless of the category of their crimes.
Please also avoid using derogatory titles to define other people’s choices. It’s not nice.